Procrastination, or the tendency to postpone important things for later, creates the illusion of freedom. It makes people think they have a lot of time, but it steals that time. Procrastination is like a carefree game, but often turns into feelings of guilt and anxiety.
A person subject to procrastination experiences a false sense of security. He is optimistic that the situation is under control and there is no hurry. He often underestimates the time it takes to complete a task (for example, he may think that the work will take 30 minutes, while objectively it takes 2 hours). Therefore, procrastination begins with a feeling of lightness and fun, but then you have to pay for it, feeling fear, anxiety, helplessness and anger at yourself. Continue reading
When raising children, parents are sometimes faced with certain difficulties. They are forced to live with the child all the stages of his growing up and all the problems associated with them. At different stages of growth in the child there are various changes in the body, body condition, behavior and many other areas. Some children may experience anxiety when faced with changes in their lives. Seeing manifestations of anxiety in a child, parents should be extremely careful.
Consider some tips that will help parents better understand their children in such cases.
1. Pay attention to the feelings of the child. It is very important to be attentive to the feelings of the child. Parents should monitor changes in the behavior of the child to understand the causes of his anxiety. Continue reading
Many of us have seen the cartoon”puzzle”. It shows the control room of the child’s brain. The child’s subpersonalities work to make him feel safe and happy. The plot of the cartoon becomes interesting when Fear, Anger, Joy, Disgust and Sadness begin to struggle for control.
For example, when Fear takes over, the child cringes. When the main thing is Anger, the child begins to swear. So we understand that all these characters represent the emotional experience of the child.
But this model actually works. The cartoon shows quite accurately how our emotions work. There are also whole areas of psychotherapy that use such models. Continue reading