Monthly Archives: October 2018
Imagine yourself as a child being threatened or yelled at because of a small mistake. How would you feel in such a situation? Shame? Humiliation? Fear of making another mistake and being punished for it? Would you feel that you were not loved?
Verbal abuse, or simply verbal abuse, is one of the most common forms of child abuse. And parents often ignore this, passing off verbal abuse as “disciplining” or ” strict displays of love.” Consider what will be the consequences of verbal violence in the short and long term.
Short-term effects of verbal child abuse Continue reading
When a child is frightened by something, parents often seek to lead him away from the source of danger. This makes sense if the child was frightened by something really dangerous (for example, if he saw a stray dog on the street or crosses the road with busy traffic), as it will teach the child in the future to recognize what is dangerous.
But what if the child was afraid of something absolutely harmless (for example, a flying plane, sleep in the room itself or go to school)? What if anxiety prevents a child from achieving life goals or just living a full life?
It is possible to help the child to avoid all sources of fear, and from this he will feel relief. However, this relief is temporary. In fact, indulging children’s anxieties reinforces fear in the long run. Continue reading
Two twins, Sasha and Polina, were in the same room and were learning lessons. At the same time Sasha muttered something dissatisfied under his breath, and Pauline hummed a song. Sasha looked angry, and Polina looked happy. Having learned his lessons, Sasha immediately ran away to the street, and Pauline stayed in her room to read a book.
The children did the same thing, but they treated their work differently. Amazing, isn’t it?
Let’s try to understand what motivates your child and what parents can do to develop children’s motivation.
External and internal motivation Continue reading