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How can an applicant overcome the stress of admission

It happens every spring. High school seniors are worried that they won’t be able to go to University. From them you can often hear the phrase: “I’m so ordinary, and my classmates are so talented.” Surprisingly, but so say as

students with average and sufficient, and with a high level of academic achievement.

The idea that they will not be able to enter a good University, cause graduates a lot of stress. Their negative emotions are so strong that they may even say, ” I’d Rather be hit by a bus and go to the hospital than be so anxious.”

In such situations, stress is felt not only by graduates, but also by parents. They are concerned about where their child will be able to go, and the process of finding a good University and preparing the child for admission literally exhausts them. Parents believe that the child’s admission to the University is a decisive factor in his success in life and depends on it and the success of their parents.

Let’s consider some recommendations that will help school graduates to maintain emotional balance during the period of admission to the University.

First, you don’t have to be a perfect student to go to University. University professors advise school leavers not to worry about their classmates having higher grades or having awards for participating in competitions. After entering the University, it will not make any difference. Every child has more reason to be proud of himself than he thinks.

Second, what you do is not as important as how you feel about it. American psychologists conducted a study to find out how studying at prestigious universities affects success in life. The success they are commensurate with income levels. Scientists found that in 1995, people who went to University in 1976 earned 30% more than students who went to less prestigious universities. However, the researchers decided to find out whether this difference was really related to the prestige of universities or with the persistence in the desire to enter the University. They analyzed the situation when children entered a prestigious University, but for some reason (most often-financial) were forced to move to a less prestigious University. As it turned out, after a few years, such people were more successful than their peers, who from beginning to end studied in elite universities. In other words, the crucial success factor was how hard the students worked to get an education.

However, the opposite is also true: many students of elite universities, feeling the work difficulties and routine after graduation, reduce the bar of success.

In addition, many education experts have debunked the myth that the richest and most prestigious universities have some advantage in the quality of education. Such stereotypes are associated with the formed name, not with the prestige of the University. American experts say that today universities are more willing to accept applicants with a name (for example, those who have success in sports or other fields of activity) than more capable graduates. Therefore, the most well-known and prestigious universities are not suitable for everyone: smaller and less well-known universities can provide more opportunities for growth and development.

The desire of applicants and their parents by all means to get a good education distracts them from things more important for success. They deprive themselves of the opportunity to learn by trial and error, they do not have enough freedom and time to learn from themselves and develop.

Admission to the University is a test for the applicant, but not the most important in his life. The challenge here is not to beat your competitors. The main goal is to instill in the child the desire to develop their potential and improve. And this desire should remain with him throughout his life.

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