When does anger become a problem?
The feeling of anger in a child can occur for many reasons. Sometimes this is due to the fact that the child goes through a certain stage of its development and simply does not understand their own emotions. However, in other cases, anger can be associated with trauma and other mental problems. Sometimes a child’s tantrums and arguments with his parents are quite normal, but other manifestations of anger may indicate abnormal behavior.
When does a child show anger through tantrums?
This is common in preschool children. Among child psychologists and early development specialists, the expression “terrible two-year-old age”is common. That’s when children often have tantrums. Their cause is frustration, and the child knows only one way to Express it – through hysteria. A child becomes hysterical when he does not want to do something that his parents tell him, or when he is forbidden to do something.
However, sometimes hysterics in children indicate abnormal manifestations of anger. They can be a sign of cruelty or aggression in a child. If a child has tantrums too often or last for long periods of time, you need to pay special attention. This may indicate any psychological problems in the child.
Manifestations of anger in older children
As the child grows older, he outgrows his tantrums and learns to communicate in a different way what he likes or dislikes. It is also easier to cope with frustrations. Of course, he still has situations where he breaks down and shows anger. This is normal if it occurs within reasonable limits. It all depends on the specific situation and stage of development in which the child is at one time or another.
In the older preschool years, it becomes clear whether the child suffers from any mental disorders, including uncontrolled outbursts of anger.
Traumatic experiences or difficult situations can greatly affect the child and cause him to have problems with expressing feelings of anger, leading to problems in the family, to the child’s inability to control his anger, as well as other problems.
Signs of anger in a child
It is very important to detect symptoms that indicate anger problems in the child as soon as possible. Observe his behavior and determine how often he has outbursts of anger. Also try to determine how strong these flashes are.
Children, especially young ones, often scream or cry loudly when something goes wrong. However, you need to determine whether there is a risk to the child and to others.
A sign that a child has some problems with anger control is also that the outbursts occur too often or last for long periods of time. If a child’s tantrum lasts 30 minutes or longer, or happens more than 5 times a day, it indicates that he has anger problems.
If the child is allowed to continue to show bad behavior caused by anger, if you do not work with this feeling, it is likely that this problem will manifest itself in his adolescence, and even in adulthood. Anger management problems only get worse over the years, and lead to violent behavior in adulthood. This, in turn, puts the person experiencing anger and others at risk. It is easier to work with anger as a child, knowing the signs of an impending problem.