My child goes to the garden: how to help him adapt?
Living in a family, the child learns the unwritten rules of its functioning: who is responsible for what, to whom you can come for a hug, and to whom-with a request to buy a cat.
This happens naturally and effortlessly, because the family is the first familiar environment for a child.
Another thing is kindergarten-the first place of socialization of the child. This is something where everything is alien, there are no favorite home smells and toys. But most importantly, there are no parents around. Because of all this, the child feels anxious and tense.
To facilitate the adaptation of a son or daughter in kindergarten, use the following tips.
Prepare a ” support package»
It can be a picture of your family that you have recently drawn together, or a soft heart, where a joint photo is attached. Let the child take this thing with him-in a backpack or jacket.
Explain: the “support package” reminds you that you think about the child and love him. Symbolic things help children find emotional support and remind them of good things.
So the child goes to kindergarten with a visual imprint of the family, and therefore-with the resources and strength to adapt to new people and the mode of the day.
Strengthen the sense of your presence
Without the presence of the mother, the kids begin to worry, cry and act up. Part of the children is closed, does not want to approach the teachers and other children.
To prevent this from happening, help your child understand that just because he goes to kindergarten and does not spend the whole day with you, does not mean that you love him less.
There is a good way to strengthen the relationship between parents and children- ” the question of a good sleep.” To do this, every night when you put the child to bed, ask one thing, and then discuss the answer together. It does not take much time: 3-10 minutes, and the child falls asleep knowing that a significant adult appreciates and listens to his thoughts.
Questions can be different:
What is your favorite cartoon character and what do you like about him?
Let’s make up our tradition for going to the garden: what funny gesture will we show when I go to work, and the teacher will come for you? This gesture means that I will think about you all day while you are in the garden.
What would you ask of the good wizard?”
If you met Winnie the Pooh / Smurf / Pig Pepa, how would you like to spend the day with them?
What do you think people’s dreams are most often fulfilled by fairies?
Guided by the interests of your child and his mood, modify the questions, come up with new ones.
Favorite toy also goes to kindergarten
There are children who are very important to have a favorite soft hare or a book.
If a child asks you to take one or two things from the house to the garden, it does not mean that he demands too much or is capricious. This allows him to feel protected and safe.
It is with a sense of security that children are able to quickly begin to adapt in kindergarten.
Help your child to see new things
Try not to limit yourself to closed questions: “do you like food? You didn’t want to sleep in the quiet hour, so you were upset?”, And pay attention to interesting details.
It is important to tell the child that his life brought a visit to the garden.
For example, he met with children, listened to new stories that were read by the teacher, learned that the boy from the group has a green parrot.
Or maybe he found Katya and Olesya, who also dream of becoming policemen, and now he has someone to call on his birthday?
Children of this age can not yet notice the cause-and-effect relationships, so help to see the positive changes is left to you.
Take advantage of fairy tales
Children are sensitive to fairy tales and stories because they are accessible to understanding, and characters find themselves in familiar problems or difficulties.
Psychologist Doris Brett wrote the book ” once upon a time there Was a girl like you.” She explains to parents the principles of writing a therapeutic tale and gives examples of stories that will save in different situations.
To compose a fairy tale for the needs of the child, include in its plot:
a hero or heroine who is interesting to the child;
a problem situation or difficulty – similar to that of a child;
understandable child way to solve the problem, which took advantage of the hero. This method should be easy to remember and not too difficult to perform.
happy ending to the story.
Through the fairy tale, the child learns how to behave and learns new ways for him to interact with others.
You can tell us about a little owl that was very frightened. She found out that she was going to kindergarten soon, and she didn’t know what “kindergarten”was. Then her mother told her who she would meet there and what a typical day in the garden looked like. So the owl stopped being afraid, and wanted to visit him.
Or the little gnome who couldn’t find friends in the garden. He complained to his mother, not knowing why no one wanted to talk to him. Mother told the dwarf two secrets: other children may also be afraid to meet. My mother advised me to treat them all to apples to start a new friendship.