Changes happening to teenagers
Puberty is the time of transition from childhood to adulthood, during which the child experiences emotional turmoil and physical changes. He is not yet an adult, but he is no longer a child. This period can be extremely confusing for the child and, as a consequence, lead him to irrational actions.
As parents, you will always strive to understand how your child feels and help him. It will be easier for you to achieve this, knowing what social changes are happening to him.
Social changes in puberty
Consider the most important social changes that occur with boys and girls in puberty.
1. Search for your own identity
puberty can be too confusing for the child: he can not understand the world of adults and apply their previous childhood experience. Therefore, it is still difficult for him to understand who he really is-an adult or a child;
the child will try to understand how the adult world works and how he should behave in different situations;
if you treat him like a child, he will find it offensive. If you treat him as an adult and demand appropriate behavior from him, he may think that you are limiting him and refuse to comply with the rules;
trying to find himself, the child will take on more responsibility. And he won’t always be able to handle it. This is one of the most common social changes in puberty.
Advice to parents
Treat the child as a person who combines the traits of an adult and a child. Make sure you give him the love and attention all children need, but also give him more autonomy and responsibility.
2. Problems with self-esteem
during puberty, the child has many new friends. He compares himself to the new people he meets in life;
new responsibilities and changes occurring with the child, confuse him. This leads him to think about whether he is able to make informed decisions and whether his character is strong enough;
during this period, it is important for the child to demonstrate the strength of his character in the presence of friends and peers. Confusion in thoughts and bodily changes cause teenagers to doubt themselves and create a negative image of their own “I”.
Advice to parents
Make sure that you support the child in all his actions, and not only words, but also actions. Show your child that you believe in his powers and will come to his aid if he needs it. Let your child know that you love and trust him, no matter what happens to him.
3. Risk of dangerous behavior
a lot of changes happen to the child, and this leads to conflicts. A teenager will always resist the rules to assert his independence;
the need for freedom and the desire to prove to the world that he grew up, can have a negative impact on the child;
teenagers are constantly in need of new sensations and impressions. Your child may fall into bad company, and his new friends may not be the best role model;
adolescents during this period tend to gain new experiences related to Smoking, alcohol consumption, and sexual experience. Even if you have already talked to the child on these topics, there is still a chance that he will fall under the influence of friends. You should be extremely careful that this does not happen.
Advice to parents
Do not lecture the child in front of his friends – it will make him even more break the rules. If you do not like the company of your child, talk about it calmly, without moralizing. If you suspect that the child is in danger or may have an addiction, consult a specialist.
4. Depression and suicidal thoughts
during puberty, the child may experience a variety of emotions, including depression of varying severity. Many children can cope with depression on their own, with the love and support of family and friends. However, some teenagers face severe depression, needing professional help;
teenagers can become sad and unhappy at the slightest provocation. The child often does not understand what makes him unhappy, while not knowing how to get rid of this feeling;
puberty is not just about physical and mental changes. This is also an important period in the study, and this is the cause of additional stress in the child. In the future this situation can lead to depression;
teenagers tend to be better in everything than their peers, including in school. This can cause them stress and anxiety. At this age, the child first encounters many things: communicating with a large number of new people, actively interacting with the opposite sex, experiencing sexual attraction, trying to create and maintain a positive image. All this and much more can cause him stress;
it is important for parents to pay attention to the manifestations of depression in a teenager. Especially careful should be to any damage that the child inflicts on himself, and any propensity to suicide. The most common symptoms of depression are gratuitous sadness, feelings of futility, low self-esteem, etc. Also, the child may not show interest in the activities that he loved before, avoid communication with friends and family. He may miss classes or not go to school at all. He has difficulty learning and concentrating.
Advice to parents
If you notice any of these symptoms in your child, talk to them and ask them how they feel. Show that his feelings are important to you, and therefore you will not judge him in any way. Tell him about similar events that happened to you as a teenager, as well as how you dealt with your feelings. If you are unable to help your child, contact a specialist. Depression is a dangerous feeling, and it needs to be responded to immediately.
Puberty is always associated with changes, so do not worry about seeing changes in the social life of the child. Be there, show your child your love and support, and keep him safe.