When a child is frightened by something, parents often seek to lead him away from the source of danger. This makes sense if the child was frightened by something really dangerous (for example, if he saw a stray dog on the street or crosses the road with busy traffic), as it will teach the child in the future to recognize what is dangerous.
But what if the child was afraid of something absolutely harmless (for example, a flying plane, sleep in the room itself or go to school)? What if anxiety prevents a child from achieving life goals or just living a full life?
It is possible to help the child to avoid all sources of fear, and from this he will feel relief. However, this relief is temporary. In fact, indulging children’s anxieties reinforces fear in the long run. Continue reading
Every year of a child’s life affects his life. However, the most important for personal development are the first six years. At this age, events occur that can cause resentment for many years.
In some cases, we may resent parents who did not care for us at times when we were most vulnerable and dependent on them. In other cases-to conceal resentment at parents who left us or not well enough performed parental duties. Resentments that appear later in life have deeper causes, but are strikingly similar to those that occur during the first six years of life.
The problem is that resentment of others harms the person who feels it. Continue reading